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Meet Tomica: Member of The Single & Childfree Network
- Angela G.
- 15 hours ago
- 4 min read
This space exists because of you: your stories, your honesty, your courage to live a life that doesn’t follow the script. And I want to start highlighting the incredible humans in this community and showing the world what a full, powerful, joyful SINK life actually looks like.
That’s why the Single and Childfree community * exists: to create a space where single and childfree women don’t have to explain themselves, defend their choices, or shrink their lives to make others comfortable. Plus, being in community with women who have the bandwidth for your friendship is so healing.
Each month, we feature a member of our community to share what their single and childfree life really looks like, what brought them here, what they’ve discovered, and what belonging in a like-minded community has meant to them.
In their own words, they share their experience of navigating life as a single, childfree [woman/adult], finding community, and embracing a life that is intentional, independent, and fully their own.
If you’ve ever wondered whether anyone else feels the way you do: you’re about to see that you’re not alone. This is where you belong.
Today, we’re spotlighting Tomica B from Tampa, Fl.
Tell everyone a bit about you!
My name is Tomica - I like to tell people it is easy to spell...just think of the word atomic and move the "a" to the end. I am a tax accountant with my own practice. I have 6 monsters at home (2 dogs and 4 cats). I travel to a new country at least once a year. I'll be 45 this year and am going to Portugal in May and Antarctica in November. I have been trying to get in better shape since perimenopause is a bitch: trying to start small with little Pilates sessions and walking to things that are less than 1 mile away when I want to get something to eat or pick up something from the pharmacy. I'm not trying to be skinny - I want to be strong because when I am 80 - I will still be living my best life - ALONE.
What was going on in your life when you found the SINK community? And how did you find out about the space?
I found Angela's tiktoks and finally felt like I wasn't alone. Nearly everyone I know is in some sort of relationship or has crotch goblins...two things that don't interest me. I felt like I was the only one going through this shit alone and suddenly, I realized that I had found someone else like me. Thanks to this group, I have found some other badass women that are doing this. And, suddenly, I am not so alone.
What made you decide to join and stay?
The sense of community that I didn't realize I was missing. Being able to hang out with similarly-minded women without leaving my house has been a dream.
Has being part of this community shifted anything for you?
Oh man, yes! This group has helped me realize that staying single is viable choice. I have always known that I have been capable in being alone but there was this underlying whisper that said "what if they're right? don't you actually want someone else in your life?" Now that whisper is dead and have been so much happier since I realized the fact that I don't want a relationship....a weight has been lifted off my shoulders, similar to the weight I felt when I acknowledged that I really don't want sex trophies. It is liberating.
What’s one thing you love about your life because you’re single and childfree—or something you’re proud of that deserves more credit?
I love that I can travel and save my money and not have to raise another woman's son.
What is a misconception about single and childfree life you want to debunk or an issue you want to clarify? OR, even something you wan to let people know about the REALITY of SINK life?
Being alone doesn't automatically make you lonely, but finding your tribe, your community (even online) can make being alone a lot easier.g you wan to l
What’s one thing this community has validated for you that you didn’t realize you needed validated?
The actual fact that I really don't need a man.
What would you say to someone who feels alone or forgotten because they’re single and childfree?
Find your tribe - join the group - we got you!
Anything else you want readers to know about you, SINK life and the choice to be single and chidfree and The Single and Childfree Network?
Everything. I thought I was ok with being alone and this group has removed the little bit of doubt that was lingering. Now I am ready to live my best life!
It isn't always easy but it can be great! I cannot imagine sharing my space/life with semen survivors or a man.
I have had more success in my life because I chose to live single and child-free.
Joining a community of single and childfree women is LIFE CHANGING! And know, you aren't alone. Join us inside the network to meet other like-minded women. Plus, we do weekly co-working, monthly workshops, virtual meet ups and connect with SINKs in our cities. Check it out! You belong here!
*note: this group is for single (not partnered or in a relationship) AND (meaning both) childfree (not a parent, not parenting, not an empty nester looking for shit to do now that their kids left the house) women.
Excited to hear about your trips this year! You definitely have to share pictures with us!! 💕
This is awesome. I love that we’re doing this in the group. I definitely have to fill mine out. But I think it’s really cool to get to know everybody.
Nice to e-meet you @TOMICA BEAUCHENE - thanks for sharing your story. 😀 Portugal is on my list to visit - I might go there and to Spain this summer. So, you’ll have to let me know how your trip went!