Today we're diving into a topic that many of you may have encountered on your journey—why your growth can upset others who are used to you playing small, and why not everyone comes along with you as you level up.
As you continue to blaze your own trail and strive for personal and professional growth, it's not uncommon to encounter resistance or disapproval from those who are accustomed to seeing you in a particular role or mindset. People around you may have become comfortable with the version of yourself that played small, stayed within societal norms, or didn't challenge the status quo. However, as you step into your power and pursue your dreams, it can disrupt their expectations and trigger various reactions.
People who are accustomed to seeing you play small or conform to societal expectations may struggle to accept the changes you're making.
It's important to understand that this is not a reflection of your worth or success, but rather a reflection of their own fears, insecurities, and limited perspectives.
It's important to recognize that their reactions are often rooted in their own fears, insecurities, and limitations. Your growth may shine a light on the areas of their lives where they feel stagnant or unfulfilled. They may fear losing your companionship, feel intimidated by your success, or struggle to understand your new path. Remember, their reactions are not a reflection of your worth or the validity of your journey
What that means: people can only meet you as far as they have met themselves and sometime we attract people in our life that match the level we are on. And maybe theri purpose isn’t to come with us but for us to meet them and learn from them on our own journey.
It still makes it so incredibly difficult to let go and recognize what is real and when we are holding on the potential and fantasy of someone joining us on the level up.
Your growth is not about them—it's about you.
It's about stepping into your authentic self, embracing your potential, and living a life that aligns with your values and aspirations. Recognize that not everyone will understand or support your journey, and that's okay. Stay true to yourself and your vision, even if it means leaving some people behind.
And finally keep in mind is that letting go is a natural part of growth. As you evolve and move forward on your trailblazing path, it's inevitable that you may outgrow certain relationships, environments, or mindsets. While it can be difficult to release attachments, it's essential for your own personal and emotional well-being.
None of this is easy or fair or less painful now that we understand it. Saying goodbye, phasing out and letting go can be the final piece in our letting go so we can move up.
Keep in mind that not everyone is or even has the capacity to join you on the level up.
So Here are FIVE things you can do to be okay with letting go:
Practice self reflection and self Validation:
Instead of seeking external validation or approval, learn to validate yourself. Remind yourself of your worth, your growth, and the progress you've made on your journey. Focus on your own accomplishments and celebrate your milestones. By recognizing your own value, you'll become less reliant on the opinions and validation of others.
Take the time to reflect on your own growth and the changes you've experienced.
Understand that the process of personal evolution can be challenging and uncomfortable, and it's likely that those around you are experiencing their own discomfort as well. Cultivate empathy for their perspective and recognize that their resistance may stem from their own internal struggles. This understanding can help you approach the situation with compassion and patience.
Embrace the Unknown:
Letting go often involves stepping into the unknown and embracing uncertainty. Instead of clinging to what is familiar and comfortable, lean into the possibilities that lie ahead. Trust in your own resilience and adaptability. Remember that letting go opens up space for new opportunities, relationships, and growth.We can get trapped in the certainty of what we know, even if it sucks. But I want to invite you to the unknown full of possibility. What if its worse? I mean….that can be true but like…what if it is great!?!?
Prioritize Your Well-being:
As you navigate the process of letting go, it's essential to prioritize your own well-being. Surround yourself with individuals who uplift and support you on your journey. Seek out communities, mentors, or like-minded peers who understand and celebrate your growth. Open and honest communication is crucial in navigating the dynamics of growth and letting go. Share your journey, aspirations, and the changes you're experiencing with those closest to you. Clearly express your boundaries and the need for support, understanding, and respect. Effective communication can help foster dialogue and potentially bridge the gap between your growth and their resistance.
Surround Yourself with Supportive Communities:
Seek out like-minded individuals who understand and support your growth. Connect with fellow trailblazers, join groups or communities that align with your goals and values, and surround yourself with people who lift you up and inspire you to keep moving forward. Having a supportive network can provide the encouragement and understanding you need during times of transition and letting go.
I want to remind you that your growth and evolution are worth embracing, even if it means leaving some people or situations behind. Trust in your own journey, find solace in supportive communities, and be open to the unknown. Embrace the freedom and empowerment that comes from letting go.
If you want more support check out THIS EPISODE of The Empowered Millennials Podcast: Not Everyone is Coming With You on the Level UP.
I encourage you to reflect on your own experiences of growth and letting go. your growth and self-evolution are not only valid but also necessary for your personal fulfillment and success. Remember that your journey is worth pursuing, even if it means leaving some people or situations behind. Stay true to yourself, communicate with empathy, and prioritize your well-being. You have the power to create a life that aligns with your authentic self.
You got this and GO BE EPIC!