Four Ways to Heal the Past and Practice Self Love

What Up baby!

It's time to put on your sassy pants because we're diving into a topic that's all about you – healing your past, practicing self-love, and showing forgiveness like a goddamned badass.

Here are some highlights from TODAY'S PODCAST EPISODE and you can dive in and listen for depth, personal stories and ways to forgive former versions of you.

Life may have thrown you a curveball or two and we can often get hung up on what we should have done, causing that ol' shame tape of self doubt and negativity to show up.

You've got this! Let's explore four ways to make it happen:

Let Go of the "Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda"

First things first, darling. It's time to bid adieu to the endless loop of "shoulda, coulda, woulda" that plays in your head. We've all been there, replaying our past mistakes like a broken record. But here's a secret: nobody's got a perfect past. Not even Beyoncé (gasp!). Instead of dwelling on your past slip-ups, focus on the fact that you did the best you could with what you had at the time. Hindsight might be 20/20, we see clearing with the lessons we learned NOW. Because if we had the info then that we do now, we wouldnt be in that situation ya know? We would have better tools to use.

So, when that pesky little voice starts saying, "You should've done this differently," I suck. Why didn’t I?

Because you at the time didn’t know any better. And you expecting you to know is futile. You didn’t. And that’s ok. What matters is that you are here NOW with this knowledge and can make different choices NOW moving forward, for the you that couldn’t and for the you who is empowered to be able to now.

And that is what I want you to embrace: how powerful you are, even the you who didn’t have the tools.

She wasn’t a piece of shit. She was goddamed EPIC out there in the world with a paperclip and a nokia cellphone in a wet seal dress doing life. She survived without the knowledge, the emotional awarenss and she got YOU here. So give her her moment. She may not have gotten everything quote right, and she did so fucking much to get you here, to this moment listening to podcasts to elevate your consciousness.

I know my 20 year old self was STRUGGLING and so was my 34 year old self and I am sure my 50 year old self will look back on this 42 year old self ans say the same thing.

But I look at the most hurt and broken versions of myself and honor them becasue they are the badasses who took the jump to heal. They are ones who went through the discomfort of changed, who were naked an afraid on so many occasions and didn’t give up.

Working through this type of shadow work can be hella fucking triggering, jus tknow I hve DONE THIS work.

I have worked with coaches, therapists and am always on a quest for personal development so I can live the fucking hell outta my life.

Embrace Your Imperfections

Let's get real. We all have a past. We've all made mistakes, faced challenges, and walked through some tough times. It's time to own it! Embrace your imperfections like they're the hottest accessory of the season. Seriously, your past doesn't define you. It's a part of you, but it's not the whole story.

Imagine your past as a funky, vintage dress. Yeah, it's got a few stains and rips, but it's unique and one-of-a-kind – just like you. So, flaunt it! Instead of dwelling on past mistakes or holding onto guilt, wear your past with pride. It's what's made you the incredible person you are today.

Self-Love Is Not Selfish

Repeat after me: Self-love is NOT selfish. It's not about being narcissistic or arrogant; it's about nurturing your soul and filling your own cup. You can't pour from an empty cup, darling! So, take time to love yourself fiercely and unapologetically.

Start with self-care rituals that make you feel amazing. Maybe it's a long bubble bath, a solo dance party in your living room, or indulging in your favorite guilty pleasure TV show. Whatever it is, do it often and without guilt. When you love yourself, you're better equipped to heal your past and let go of old wounds. You deserve happiness, so go out there and grab it!

Forgiveness Is Freedom

Ah, forgiveness – it's like a magic spell that releases you from the chains of your past. But here's the sassy twist: Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting, and it definitely doesn't mean letting someone off the hook. Forgiveness is for YOU, not them.

Think of holding onto resentment and anger as carrying around a heavy bag of rocks. It weighs you down, slows your progress, and hurts no one but you. So, let it go! Release those emotional burdens like the sassy superstar you are. Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to become besties with someone who hurt you, but it does mean setting yourself free.

In the grand story of your life, you are the protagonist, the hero, and the sassy superstar. Your past may have been a rocky road, but it's shaped you into the fierce, fabulous person you are today. Embrace your imperfections, love yourself like you're the star of your own show, and don't be afraid to drop those heavy emotional bags through forgiveness.

I hope you've soaked up all the inspiration and empowerment from these tips.Just know can speak so candidly about my pain, my trauma and life because it doesn’t control me or cause me shame. I love the past versions of me and I honor her and I do better for her, for us and for my future self too.

Honor all of those parts, baby.

And that is a HUGE step in your healing and forgiveness process that will without a doubt support and fill up your self love and confidence cup.

Getting help and support with this can be the biggest barrier to making change and I do know that. But I hope that by sharing my story you can see there is light and a whole new way of living on the other side.

Please reach out and let’s connect. You don’t have to it alone and starting now means you are already on your way to healing and recovery and MA FUCKIN JOY.

The link to connect is HERE and I would love to hear from you and guide you on a deep discovery journey to heal, forgive, build confidence and live the badass empowered life you are meant to.

If you're hungry for more wisdom, laughter, and sass (who wouldn't be?), make sure to tune in to our latest podcast episode. We're diving even deeper into this juicy topic with expert guests, personal stories, and enough sass to fuel your self-love journey for a lifetime.

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Remember, you're fabulous, you're powerful, and you're unstoppable. GO BE EPIC.