Excuses are like assholes...
...and I totally was one.
I used to make EXCUSES.⠀
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Any time someone told me how they felt, told me what they needed, gave feedback, or just rubbed me the wrong way...⠀
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I had an Arsenal of excuses: ⠀
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1. I believed people were doing things to intentionally hurt me so it warranted an attack. ⠀
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2. I would judge other people’s behavior based on my expectations. ⠀
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3. I would defend myself and my behavior even if hurtful.⠀
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4. I would blame anyone who challenged me for my discomfort. ⠀
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5. I Would justify with “this is just how I am”. ⠀
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Once faced with deep pain and no where I go, I couldn’t run from myself, my hurt, my emotions. I could no longer say “this is just me” and “I don’t do that kinda stuff”⠀
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I was forced to meet uncomfortable parts of myself and therefore created space to meet the discomfort of others with grace, empathy, curiosity and humility.⠀
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We are all humans just doing our best. ⠀
And once we admit we are in the drivers seat of our own life, we can terminate our excuses and start making decisions.⠀
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Decisions. Over. Excuses. ⠀
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Now, I decide how to respond with these epic new tools.⠀
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1. No one does anything TO me. We are all just doing the best we can. ⠀
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2. People’s behavior has NOTHING to do with me and rather a reflection of their own inner conflict.⠀
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3. There’s no need to defend or prove because I can LISTEN to what someone needs and take responsibility and honor how they feel. I understand what holding space is. ⠀
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4. I listen. Not blame. Not interrupt. Not deflect. Getting curious about why someone feels how they do is important. ⠀
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5. There’s always room to grow and discomfort and challenging of old ideas is here to help us grow. ⠀
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Think about about areas where it’s uncomfortable, what patterns keep coming up and listen to where you may need some love and growth! ⠀
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Make the decision to grow over the excuse to run away from it. ⠀
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The world is trying to elevate and align you! ⠀
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Take a breath and just listen. ⠀
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❤️reach out if this resonates and makes sense, to chat or if you want to learn more. My email is always open!⠀
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Xox,⠀
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Angela
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